Connecticut Mediation Attorneys

Mediation Lawyers Serving Hartford, New Haven, and Fairfield Counties

Mediation is an effective tool for resolving conflicts, including divorce, outside of the standard litigation system. This approach can offer positive cost-effective alternatives to dispute resolution in a number of areas such as divorce, child custody, child support or other family law issues. The mediation lawyers at McConnell Family Law Group can help you reach an amicable settlement to your dispute.

Mediation For Divorce

Mediation Lawyers in ConnecticutDivorce mediation allows both parties to identify, negotiate and resolve the issues raised by the decision to divorce. The mediator establishes firm ground rules and a comfortable environment so that emotionally charged issues can be discussed. The mediator helps both spouses gather necessary information and review it systematically. A mediator often helps formulate a more creative solution than the court could offer. When parenting agreements and financial distribution plans are made by the spouses themselves, there is a better chance of meeting the needs of the entire family.

Mediated divorces typically take less time and have a higher rate of long-range parental cooperation and fewer costs associated with multiple return visits to court. The mediator remains neutral between the husband and the wife. Importantly, the mediator cannot give advice to either party, and also cannot act as a lawyer for either party; however, the mediator may provide information about the legal system, how issues may be viewed by lawyers or judges, and what alternatives there are for solving issues. The mediator can point out in open session to both spouses things that they both need to consider in the decision-making process. That exchange of information frees up both spouses to negotiate with each other in confidence. When necessary, the mediator will refer the couple to third-party experts for services such as appraisals. The MFLG maintains a Firm-100 list of referral sources in order to meet the demands of mediated and litigated divorces.

Mediation Is Less Expensive

  • Many litigation lawyers charge a retainer fee of between $3,500 and $20,000 (for each spouse) for most average litigation cases and bill the client for services in addition to the time covered by the retainer. Once this initial retainer is exhausted, the attorney will charge a new retainer or invoice the client monthly. The retainer amount will be substantially more in complex cases, involving custody disputes or complex financial disputes.
  • The total cost for both spouses from the beginning to end for a mediation divorce can be less than one retainer made by one spouse in a litigated divorce. A good range of the total cost of a mediation divorce is between $3,500 - $9,000, but of course, circumstances may vary.
  • “Cost” should be measured not only in dollars spent but also in the emotional cost to the parties and their children, which can also be significantly less in a mediated divorce.

Independent Attorney / Review Counsel for Mediation

The best mediation client is an informed and educated client. Because knowledge is golden, a good divorce mediator strongly encourages a mediation client to meet with an independent attorney to provide each spouse with independent legal advice and the knowledge necessary to make long-lasting, educated, informed decisions.

Some spouses may choose to meet with their reviewing attorney at the end of the mediation process so they can look over all the financial documents prepared in mediation and the draft separation agreement. Some spouses go to a review at attorney only once at the beginning of the process, others go to an independent attorney a the beginning and end of mediation, and others don’t go at all.

An independent reviewing attorney charges by the hour and the cost should not be more than one to three total hours of his or her hourly rate.

Finalizing the Divorce in Court

If you use a mediator who is also an attorney, they can help you file all the court paperwork which can include:

    • starting the dissolution of marriage action
    • preparing and filing the necessary financial disclosure agreement, and final papers to be presented to the court

Often a state marshal or sheriff does not need to be used to serve the divorce papers if a waiver of service is signed by the defendant in the presence of a divorce mediation who is also an attorney. In Connecticut, the divorce mediator frequently attends the final hearing and assists the couple at this appearance. The mediator will be the person who will canvas the spouses about the agreements reached rather than the Judge.

Timeframe for a Mediated Divorce

How long a mediated divorce takes depends on the complexity of the issues and ability of the individuals to be flexible as they negotiate a fair agreement. The average mediated divorce case takes approximately four to five sessions (1-2 hours each) spread out over 3 or 4 months. More complex cases can take up to 6 months to complete.

High Net Worth or Emotionally Complicated Cases

No case is too complicated to be settled using mediation. If your case is complex, we might engage outside experts such as; an accountant, appraiser, financial planner, or certified financial analyst to clarify issues and provide various options. Experienced family mediators have numerous skills, tools, and resources to help couples reach decisions. Couples who are committed to staying out of litigation and avoiding draining their joint savings will reach workable and equitable agreements. The role of a well-trained, mature, intelligent, professional mediator is to facilitate and guide spouses through the most painful and complex chapter of their life. If you reach an impasse, you did not fail. The mediator’s job is to reduce the fear, to educate, empower, and provide you with creative solutions to get through any impasses and help guide you beyond the finish line.

When Mediation Process Breaks Down

It is fairly rare to agree on all but one or two issues, but even if that is the case, mediation is seldom wasted. An agreement can be prepared on all settled issues, and the parties can either litigate the remaining issues or take further time to think about and come back to mediation. A well-trained neutral mediation lawyer will teach you about free “safety net options” existing within your jurisdiction that are available to help settle your case BEFORE you consider litigating your case.

Find Out If Mediation Is Right For You

If you are considering mediation as a means to resolving your dispute, contact McConnell Family Law Group today for a consultation. Our offices are located in Fairfield, New Haven, and Hartford counties. Contact us today to schedule a consultation.




638 Prospect Ave., Hartford, CT 06105
Tel: 860-266-1166

New Canaan

71 Elm St. #201, New Canaan, CT 06840
Tel: 203-344-7007

New Haven

157 Church Street, New Haven, CT 06510
Tel: 203-344-7762

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