Divorce and Social Media

4 Tips: Divorce and Social Media Etiquette

Recently updated on January 19th, 2023 at 05:30 pm

In today’s technological world, many people put their whole lives on social media for everyone to see.  We understand that navigating social media sites during and after your divorce can be tricky.  However, the wrong posts can really cost you.  By following these tips for social media etiquette during your divorce, you can steer clear of potential problems down the road.

Why You Need to Follow Proper Etiquette

In more and more cases, social media posts are being used as admissible evidence against a spouse during divorce litigation.  They are sometimes used to prove infidelity which can, in turn, be used to impact alimony awards.  Some states, like Connecticut, will give greater alimony payments to innocent spouses while others will not give any alimony to a cheating spouse if that’s what caused the divorce.  Prenuptial agreements can also be affected—many include a clause that eliminates alimony in the event of infidelity, and greater payments can be given to a spouse that has been cheated on.

Social media can also be used for other reasons such as custody or asset battles.  If you have photos or videos of yourself smoking, drinking, or doing drugs around your children, your spouse can use that as evidence that you’re an unfit parent.  They can also use photos or videos of the children engaging in risky behaviors to show that your children aren’t safe with you.  If your spouse feels that you are hiding assets and you post pictures of your latest vacation or shopping spree, that can come back to bite you as well.  The main takeaway here should be that you should be cautious about posts on social media before, during, and after a divorce.  Keep social media posts to a minimum in the process.

4 Tips for Social Media Etiquette During and After Your Divorce

Photo and video posts aren’t the only concern during divorce proceedings.  You want to keep things as civil as possible between you and your spouse to make the process easier.  Here are four tips you should follow to avoid bitterness:

1. Don’t Race to Change Your Relationship Status

You should remain quiet about the divorce on social media until you both decide on the best way to break the news.  In all cases, avoid posting the lurid details of an affair or any financial issues that led to the split.  The public doesn’t need to know, and all it will do is drive another wedge between you and your spouse and complicate your proceedings.

2. Avoid “Vaguebooking” and Public Rants

Posting negative statuses on your Facebook page is the most blatant example of this.  You don’t want to stoke the fire when there are legal issues at stake, and it will only serve to make your friends and family uncomfortable.  The same goes for getting into arguments online; the anonymity of an online platform makes people more likely to say things they would never say in person.  Posting when you’re in a deeply emotional place is inadvisable.  Keeping your feelings out of the public eye will help you turn to the next chapter of your life more easily.

3. Unfriend or Unfollow Your In-laws

When you divorce your spouse, you’re also divorcing their family and friends.  Once you finalize your divorce, it’s best to let go of any extraneous relationships on social media.  Have a discussion with your spouse about whether you want to remain friends with them on these platforms.  It can be necessary to stay connected if you’re raising kids together, but if animosity exists between you, you might want to unfriend them as well.

4. Don’t Spy or Stalk Your Ex

After the end of a difficult breakup, it can be tempting to stalk your ex’s social media accounts.  Making yourself crazy over every new “friend” they add or seeking out evidence of new relationships will only hurt you emotionally.  The healthiest way to move on is to focus on yourself with a view toward moving onto a new chapter in your life—one that is peaceful and fulfilling.  Life is short.

Divorce is hard, but you can make it easier by trusting professionals.  At McConnell Family Law Group, where our goal is “Finding Peace Through Strength,” we understand our clients’ needs while respecting the emotional transition they’re going through.  To schedule an appointment contact us today by calling one of our offices located in Hartford (860) 266-1166, New Canaan (203) 344-7007, or by visiting www.mcconnellfamilylaw.com.  We also have offices in Greenwich, New Haven, and Groton by appointment only.  Finally, if you are interested in Divorce Mediation, please contact us at: (203) 769-3995 or visit us at www.connecticutdivorcemediation.com.   Find Peace Through Strength!

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