It is easy to imagine that every divorce is contentious and that couples will fight over everything, from who gets the pet to who gets more time with the children. However, in reality, many couples can actually agree on several aspects of their divorce, making the entire process much faster and easier.
Even if you do not agree on everything, there are other options apart from “duking it out” in court. Collaborative divorce is one such option.
What is Collaborative Divorce?
In a collaborative divorce, you can resolve disputes regarding your divorce without going to court. The process gives you more control and is often far less time-consuming or combative than a traditional divorce. It is often less expensive and less stressful as well. The primary advantage is perhaps how efficient the process is, allowing you to move on with the rest of your life.
The spouses or partners commit to working together to reach a settlement on various issues, such as property disputes, alimony, or child custody. They may also work with professionals during this process, such as:
- Child specialists
- Financial analysts
- Communication coaches
- Pension attorneys
- Mental health professionals
Your divorce attorney will also be able to give you advice about the legal process and ramifications associated with your decisions. You can literally have a whole team behind your back working to get you back on your feet after the divorce.
The Foundations of Collaborative Divorce
The entire collaborative divorce process is based on the fundamental notions of open communication and mutual respect. It is team-based. You can expect the professionals involved to utilize unique problem-solving techniques to find solutions that are acceptable to both spouses.
This process can be incredibly emotional, which is why the professionals involved in the collaborative divorce process will offer support as you need it. In addition, collaborative divorce always prioritizes the needs of any children involved in the process. Therefore, child specialists may be part of the team working on your divorce.
Key Differences Between Collaborative Divorce and Traditional Divorce
Collaborative divorce is relationship-focused. It is constructed around the understanding that your marriage was built on a relationship that likely worked at some point—you have a history. It also assumes that you may need to keep some of these relationships going into the future, such as with your ex-spouse to support your child.
In a collaborative divorce, you agree to work with professionals to create a solution that works for everyone in exchange for agreeing to stay out of the courtroom. You will make your own decisions instead of leaving it in the hands of a judge. You will likely still file your divorce paperwork as in a traditional divorce, but by the time you do that, everything will be discussed, debated, negotiated, and ironed out.
Get the Help of an Experienced Connecticut Divorce Lawyer
If the collaborative divorce process seems like something that might fit your needs, learn more by contacting McConnell Family Law. We can help you get the process started.