The Year of Rebuilding: 5 Ways You Can Rebuild Your Life After Divorce
A new year is your chance to start over. You have a clean slate, so why not make the most of it? This type of mentality is especially important if you are starting the year as a newly or recently divorced person. You can use 2018 as the year to rebuild by employing the following tips and suggestions:
1. Focus on YOU
Now is a great time to shift your focus to determine what you really need or want in your life. It may take some time to figure out what this means for you. Everyone needs different things after a divorce.
You might need alone time; you might need time to travel away from where you and your former spouse used to live together; you might need to spend more time with family and friends. It will take time, but do some inner reflection and determine what you need to heal and move forward.
2. Learn to be an individual again
You may need to work on “rediscovering” yourself. Some people have been part of a couple so long that they forget what it was that made them a unique individual with their own interests and passions they dreamed of pursuing. Perhaps, you can shift your focus to developing or learning skills that you may have relied on your spouse to provide. Take up a new hobby, take that trip, take classes at the local community college.
You may want to try journaling if you are having trouble dealing with your emotions. This practice is not only a useful outlet, but it can also help you spot patterns in your thinking and actions as well. If necessary, take them to a psychologist to see how you can break negative patterns.
3. Spend some time with your finances
Your finances may be in complete chaos after a divorce. This may be the first time that you have had to support yourself or your dependents on one income. Take a hard look at your monthly obligations and income, so you have a complete understanding of where you stand month-to-month.
Unfortunately, we have often seen that many people do not understand just how great the financial impact of divorce is until it is too late. Take some time to meet with a financial advisor if you think that would be helpful.
4. Make new friends
Couples and single people often run with different types of crowds. Single people tend to want to be around other single people as they have similar goals and interests. That being said, there is no reason for you not to assimilate into different groups of people. Try your hand at sports leagues, volunteer organizations, and more! Maybe hang out with your coworkers who have similar interests. There are many people out there that may make an impact on your life, it just takes courage to get out there!
5. Get comfortable with yourself
Getting comfortable with yourself can be a real challenge. While it is important to maintain connections with friends and family, it is equally important to be able to be alone without actually feeling alone. Be brave and take on new things by yourself, even if it is something as simple as going to a movie or getting something to eat somewhere new on your own.
2018 is YOUR year. Here at McConnell Family Law Group, we pride ourselves on serving Connecticut families with their family legal matters. We are your guiding force through some of the toughest and scariest parts of a legal action that concerns those closest to you. Call us today!